The Psalm writer wrote: Open my eyes, that I may behold Wonderful things from Your law. As we come before a Holy God and hear his word, may we have eyes open to the wonderful and fearful things from his law. May it move us to repent and seek forgiveness, fear disobedience, and live in light of the grace we have received. This is the word of God. It is eternally true and applicable for all of life.
Proverbs 31: 10-20 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. She looks for wool and flax And works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
Christian wives, your worth is far above jewels. As your reprobate counterparts build their resumes, you are busy building up your home. As the feminists of the world unite against the patriarchy, you stand by your husband doing him good, not evil. As men in the world increasingly view women as manipulative, cold, calculating, and out to “#metoo” them, your husband trusts you as his helpmate. Matthew Henry says this regarding the trust a husband has for an excellent wife: “He trusts in her fidelity to his interests, and that she will never betray his counsels nor have any interest separate from that of his family. When he goes abroad, to attend the concerns of the public, he can confide in her to order all his affairs at home, as well as if he himself were there. She is a good wife that is fit to be trusted, and he is a good husband that will leave it to such a wife to manage for him.” Men of the world watch and give approval as the women in their lives destroy their children in the womb, wiping out their posterity to avoid the “burden” of childbirth, and the inconvenience of parenting. In contrast, your husbands look at you with awe and wonder as you embrace the pain of childbirth, wearing your battle scars like stripes earned in combat, knowing that children are a gift from the LORD. By your husbands side, you train these children up in the way they should go, sharpening them like arrows, knowing one day you will launch your children out into the world, into the enemy’s heart. The world hates you because you submit to your husband's headship, desiring to see you submit instead to the state, an employer, and the lusts of your flesh. With a heart full of delight, you work hard in your home: laundry, meals, diapers, homeschool, dishes, exhausted most days, contending with a husband and children who are often ungrateful, all the while displaying a gentle and quiet spirit as one of Sarah’s children. The scars, the quiet submission, the perseverance, the pressure, the challenges of keeping your home, raising your children, and submitting to your husband….are all pressures meant to refine you like a lump of coal being squeezed and transformed into a beautiful jewel. Wives, you truly are a gift to your husbands, treasures meant to be cherished.
Yet, because of indwelt sin, you will oftentimes be tempted to hate your role as wife. You will be tempted to resent your place in the home, toiling day after day, often with little to no recognition for all your hard work. Because of desires in your heart not yet brought into subjection to Christ, you may find yourselves longing for the “freedom” enjoyed by those who co-opt the management of their homes and the raising of their children. Wanting to submit instead to employers, the pressures of the culture, and the lusts of your flesh, you may at times find yourselves doubting God’s plan for you, envying the wayward women of the world, embracing a little dab of culture here, a little bit of rebellion there.
Husbands, though you know your wife is a precious jewel, and you know that you are to lay your life down for her the way Christ laid down His life for the Church, you often lay burdens on her that are meant for you alone to carry, forgetting that she is the weaker vessel. For instance, when you fail to apply swift corrective discipline to your children's foolishness, it is your wife who is left at home to deal with the ramifications. Not only can this lead your wife into resentment, it provokes your children to wrath. Additionally, as husbands leading your homes, Godly men, looking for avenues to serve Christ in all areas of life…..far too often we wind up neglecting the most important ministry God has put before us: loving our wives, encouraging our wives, teaching them from the Word, listening to their hearts, cares, and concerns. Men, we must learn to say no to things that interfere with our ministry to our wives, and by extension, our entire families. This means not only ministry opportunities, but also hobbies and other pursuits, anything that detracts from your ministry to your wife, rather than enhancing it.
Husbands, we must love our wives the way Christ loves His Bride and laid down His life for her. Show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. Young men, you will not find an excellent wife among the harlots and temptresses of this world. You must look to the daughters of our heavenly Father for wives fit to be called precious jewels. Wives, rejoice in your high calling: child of God, wife, and mother. Your place in the home is one of the most vital, rewarding, and precious callings to be blessed with. Respect your husband as head of the home, in gentle, quiet submission. Take heart wives, and have faith, knowing that your labors of love are not in vain. Young ladies, look first to the Word of God, and second to Godly women in the Church, for a picture of marriage which is sure to honor your Heavenly Father. Resist the temptation to take advice on relationships from your worldly wayward friends. Resist the temptation to take your dating cues from a culture completely bent on destroying your womanhood.
If you are able, please kneel as we cry out to our Heavenly Father for the forgiveness of sins, and grace to walk in the truth.
Heavenly Father, we come to You with our distractions, our weaknesses, and our sin. We come with the baggage of a culture that hates womanhood, wives, and mothers, and which loves weak men and boys who never grow up. We come to You only by the blood of Your Son Jesus. Father, as the men, women, boys, and girls of SKC, we cry out to you for mercy. Please forgive us men where we have sinned against You when failing to love our wives. Please forgive the wives for their rebellion against your created order. Please show grace to the young men, and young ladies, that they may grow into maturity being shaped by Your Word rather than the world around us. Father, please show us grace, that we might encourage one another, love one another, and bear one another's burdens as we trek through this life together in communion with You. It’s in the Name of Your Son Jesus that we pray, Amen.
Listen now to the comforting assurance of the grace of God, promised in the gospel to all that believe:
Isaiah 57: 14-15 And it will be said, “Build up, build up, prepare the way, Remove every obstacle out of the way of My people.” For thus says the high and exalted One Who lives forever, whose name is Holy, “I dwell on a high and holy place, And also with the contrite and lowly of spirit In order to revive the spirit of the lowly And to revive the heart of the contrite.
To all those who thus repent and seek Jesus Christ for their salvation, your sins are forgiven in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Lift up your hearts!
(From the 3/10/19 liturgy of Sovereign King Church written by Aaron Sabie.)